Why Do People Post Negative Comments?

Why Do People Leave Negative Comments?

I want to talk about something that feels really important and personal: why people make negative comments online.

And I’ll also introduce you to my boyfriend, Charles Pam, a beautiful, incredibly talented musician and music producer. He’s doing something really brave and bold: putting himself and his music out into the world with pure confidence and no fear.

But every now and then, as he showed me this morning, he receives a negative comment on one of his videos. He handles them so gracefully, he laughs them off and has a really solid tactic for dealing with them.

But, watching this unfold made me feel called to explore this topic more deeply, especially because it’s such a sensitive one for me!

People can be so harsh, cruel, and unkind, and one of my biggest fears in sharing myself with the world has been the possibility of attracting negativity and judgment. It pulls on a deep core wound of abandonment, the fear of being cast out by your community, by society, and left alone. It triggers that unworthiness wound that whispers, “I’m not enough. People can see through me.”

So why do people do it?

If you don’t know me, I work with deep emotional healing, getting into the subconscious, releasing traumas, old beliefs, patterns, and behaviors embedded within us, sometimes from past lives, Soul Contracts, or other dimensions.

But alongside that, I’m fascinated by human behavior. And cruel comments, whether on Instagram, YouTube, Facebook, or anywhere else, always pique my curiosity. Why would someone do that?

If you have a fear of being seen, of being judged or scrutinised, this will probably speak to you. And if you've received comments like this before, you are not alone.

For those of us with the 5 energy in our Soul Contract, we’re here to speak up and tell the truth, even when it feels uncomfortable. For me, it’s in the karma position, which makes it a little tricky, especially with my 8 energy that just wants to keep the peace. (If you’re curious about that dynamic  here’s a video on the 5 and 8 energies.)

So let’s break this down - why do people post negative comments?

1. The "Say-It-As-It-Is" Type

These people are truth-sayers or, at least, they think they are.

They lack a filter and simply say whatever pops into their mind, with little to no thought, empathy, or understanding. Often, this comes from growing up in an environment where people were brutally honest or unkind, where softness wasn’t valued. Or perhaps their childhood was a quite traumatic.

If you’ve been raised in a harsh environment, negative comments might not feel like a big deal. This group tends to have a “don’t be a snowflake, handle it” energy. They can’t imagine how vulnerable it is to put your creativity or voice into the world. To them, criticism is just part of life.

Understanding this helps. It doesn’t excuse the behavior, but it gives some context. When someone’s grown up without empathy, it’s hard for them to offer it to others.

2. The Unconsciously Triggered

This group is different, they’re not intentionally being cruel, but your light is reflecting back their own dimness, and they can’t handle it. Instead of leaning into the mirror and working on their own pain, they try to smash the mirror to bring you down, so they don’t have to look at their stuff.

It’s deeply unconscious. They may not even know why they’re doing it. They just feel bad when they see you shining, and instead of rising to meet that energy, they pull you down to meet theirs.

I’ve felt this too. Even I get triggered by people doing beautiful things in the world. It’s human. The key is awareness, and choosing not to act from that place.

Ironically, tearing others down doesn’t raise your own frequency. It actually drags you further down. The cycle becomes vicious: you feel unworthy, you lash out, you feel worse… and it continues.

So if you have a bright energy, you will repel people who aren’t ready to face their own shadow, and some of them might attack you for it.

3. The Conscious Saboteurs

This group is the most toxic. They know exactly what they’re doing when they leave a cruel comment, and they enjoy it. They live on a spectrum I call the emotional manipulators: narcissists, sociopaths, energy vampires, and even psychopaths.

These are the people who actively cause chaos and harm, on purpose.

You can’t win with this group. They thrive on drama and entanglement, and they will do anything to keep you in their low-frequency world. The best response? Block, cut off, don’t engage. Don’t feed the energy.

It’s not always easy to know which type of commenter you’re dealing with. Are they just blunt? Are they unconsciously triggered? Or are they consciously manipulative? That’s where your discernment comes in.

Moving Through It With Grace

I hope this helps give some clarity on why people post negative comments. When we understand the roots of that behavior, it becomes easier to detach. We stop taking it personally. Because it’s never about us. It’s always about them.

So when someone lashes out, you can say to yourself, “Ah, that person’s having a rough day. My light made them feel worse about themselves.” And instead of shrinking, you can soften, re-center, and keep going.

Keep putting yourself out there. Keep shining. Keep expanding your beautiful, joyful aura, because the world needs what you have to share.

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Carry on exploring