10 Things I Learned in 2025
What a year it’s been!
According to Chinese Astrology, we’re about to move out of the year of the Snake and into the year of the Horse. After all the shedding of this year, the next one is meant to bring some much-needed momentum (yippee).
As someone born in a Snake year, I can confirm it’s been a tricky one, and not just for me.
I don’t know what’s happening with the energy lately, but everything feels intense. The world seems madder and more chaotic than usual, money feels more stressful, and emotions seem even more heightened.
I believe this is partly due to the bigger shift we’re moving through collectively - the gradual transition out of 3D consciousness and into a more 5D reality. It’s a huge shift, so of course everything feels wild.
It’s like a long, pregnant pause where the edges feel frayed, timelines are shifting, and it almost seems as though we’ve stepped out of a linear version of reality.
While I don’t personally see January 1st as the true start of the new year (for me, that happens in March with the arrival of Spring), I still tend to measure life through the Gregorian calendar. Which is why, at the end of each year, I like to look back at the last twelve months - what unfolded, what I learned, what I didn’t, and everything in between.
So here’s 2025, unwrapped in all its glory.
No. 1 Remember to live in the ‘right now’
For a long time I’ve had a dream of living somewhere warm and sunny. Preferably somewhere along the Mediterranean coast where I can take my online business and create a life for myself in a more vibrant and sun-kissed environment.
As someone who is naturally impatient and doesn’t like staying in the same place for too long, I can often pull myself out of the present moment in my pursuit of a future that feels lighter and brighter in my imagination. The problem is, when I do this, I pull myself out of the joy of right now.
What I often forget, when I’m at my most impatient, is that the future is always built on the thoughts, words and actions of the present. So, when we’re living in our head, imagining how much better life could be, we’re always keeping it at a distance because we’re not taking inspired action in the moment.
And this is the key.
We have to remember to embrace where we are right now. Even if we’re impatient, frustrated or tired of the way things are in our life, we have to seek out the silver linings and know that the more we stay in this stuck energy of impatience and longing for a better future, it will always stay just out of reach.
Now, even though I know I want a change, I’m always pulling myself back into real gratitude and joy for where I am right now, knowing that it’s a wonderful place for me to learn and grow, and that things can, and do, change very quickly, as soon as we want them to.
No. 2 It’s ok to try things
I’m not very good at sticking to things, and for a long time I’ve worried that it’s not a good thing.
I love to try new things, but I often don’t keep at them unless I really love them. I also tend to float in and out of doing things - lingering on the edge of commitment, but never taking the full plunge.
This year I bought an amazing blender and spent months making incredible smoothies, and then I just stopped. I also went through a phase of working out at the gym and getting really into it, and then I just stopped.
I tend to flit between different rituals, some of them lasting weeks, and some lasting just a few days. It might be a lymphatic facial routine, or making home-made soup, or writing in my diary, or listening to music. I tend to get into a routine of doing something, and then I just fall out of it again.
These are small examples but the pattern has been the same across bigger things in my life. I tend to drop into things, feel really excited about them, and drop right out again.
I’m not entirely sure why, but I’ve realised that it’s a really normal thing to try things and stop, then start them again, or maybe move onto trying something new. We are meant to live life experimentally and it’s perfectly ok to flit around, knowing that there’s no right or wrong way to live.
No. 3 Doing the hard stuff is so rewarding
For most of my life I’ve lived by lists.
I mean, I honestly love nothing more than a to-do list - it allows me to pull all the thoughts I’m holding onto in my brain onto a piece of paper that I can create a daily or weekly structure from, and that for me is heavenly.
A list helps me keep track of all the admin of being a human being, of which there is a huge amount. It’s no simple thing to be alive, it’s a logistical puzzle of constant form-filling, staying on top of things and paying bills. And I don’t even have a family to add into the mix.
At the same time, the one thing I’ve never been good at doing is the stuff on my list that I don’t want to do. I’ll add the hard stuff on there (and by hard, I mean the things that I don’t know how to tackle) to make it seem like I’m making progress. But I will do every self-sabotage in the book in order not to ‘do the thing’.
What I realised this year is that doing the hard stuff on the list is actually the most rewarding part. And, the sooner you get them done, the better you feel about yourself.
Before I started doing this, I used to have a nagging feeling at the back of my mind of all the things I needed to do, and they began to really weigh me down and pull me out of the moment. Now, it feels like something massive has shifted - the hard things get done, and they get done on time, and that’s a huge thing for me.
No. 4 Real friendships are never lost
The last five years have been very insular for me, and I think it’s the same for a lot of people.
2020 was a catalytic year. So much so that I refer to my life in two parts - the first is pre-2020 and the second is post-2020. It was a year that everything changed, and my understanding of myself and the world around me crumbled into dust, before it was born anew.
It wasn’t an easy process, but it was a process that led me to where I am now, and for that I am deeply grateful.
At the same time, I let go of a lot of relationships in this period. My life changed so dramatically that it’s to be expected, but it was something I feel I have been quietly grieving for a long time. The cataclysmic events of 2020 created a rift - not just within me, but within my entire social circle that I just didn’t know how to reconcile.
And for anyone else who had their awakening in this period, I feel you deeply.
The thing is, what I realised this year is that those friendships didn’t go away, and I managed to reconnect to some incredibly special people, which has lifted my heart and released some of that long-time grief, and guilt, that it was all my fault.
Some relationships are meant to fall away, while others can always be revived if the connection is strong.
No. 5 Instagram doesn’t hate me
Instagram and I have had our fair share of beef over the years. This is mainly due to the fact that I used to find Instagram, and all social media platforms, incredibly triggering.
I have strong 12-3 energy in my Soul Contract which is all about learning, and fully embodying, my self-worth. So, of course, Instagram was always going to be something that poked and prodded at my insecurities and fears.
I used to compare myself to everyone else on there, believing that Instagram was a life-ruining, soul-sucking entity that I would never be able to thrive or grow on.
The interesting thing is that after some time, healing and perspective, I realised that our success on Instagram is totally dependant on what we make of it.
Instagram doesn’t have a personal vendetta against me, and it isn’t punishing me for not being good enough - it’s literally just a platform that I get to share who I am on. And this is exactly what I’m using it for now, and it feels so much healthier and so much more joyful than I ever thought possible.
I’ve worked hard on learning to accept and embrace all the parts of me, and so the triggering energy that Instagram used to have.. just isn't there - and that’s a huge relief.
No. 6 I’m not in control but I can be in command
I figured out an analogy for life that’s something I’ve found really helpful to bring myself back to, especially when things feel a little out of control.
We all want to be in control - it’s the nature of our ego-mind which wants control in order to anticipate all the outcomes to stay safe. It’s all about survival and staying alive, and it’s a huge driving force within us.
At the same time, we’re not in control of life, and we never will be. It’s like the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow - we think we’ll find peace when we have it, but we never find it.
So here it is: imagine yourself on a boat. You’re the captain and you’re in command. You cannot control the weather, the waves or the sharks that circle beneath the boat, but you can take command of yourself and your ship in ways that are all within your control.
You can tighten the sails, put on your lifejacket and steer your ship through the storm - this is your power.
While we cannot play God, we can play our own story through the choices we make. We can choose to respond to life - weathering the storm - rather than reacting to everything that we cannot control, and this is when life becomes easier and more graceful.
Be the captain of your ship, take command, and you’ll be able to see out the storms of life.
No. 7 It’s ok to feel lonely
I had a moment a few months ago where I felt really lonely.
I’m very lucky that I really enjoy my own company, and love nothing more than to spend time with myself. At the same time, I have a beautiful support network of family and friends that I know I can lean on if I need to, which is why I’m so lucky.
However, I do have times where I feel truly alone, and in this moment it felt like there was absolutely no one who I could turn to who would understand me, and that felt unbelievably strange and bewildering to me.
What I realised is - it’s ok to feel lonely, and feeling lonely is a very powerful part of the human experience.
We are never alone, literally never, for we always have beings, angels and guides around us who are constantly loving, encouraging and supporting us, yet most of us cannot consciously connect to them, and so we feel that we have been abandoned on earth.
If we feel lonely, it’s ok. It’s like feeling sad, or angry or scared. It’s valid and it’s real. And maybe it’s time we stopped trying to repress these feelings and start bringing them out into the open.
When we do that we realise that there’s many other people who feel the way we feel, but if we all cover it up with a mask of ‘everything is fine / I’m fine’ how will we ever be able to truly connect?
So, it’s ok to feel, and maybe it just needs sharing, so it can feel lighter.
No. 8 There’s really no right or wrong decisions
This is a big one if you have 7s in your Soul Contract, like me, because we can really struggle with making decisions.
I believe that there are no right or wrong decisions. There are just decisions we make from a state of higher consciousness when we are grounded, and making them from a place of trust and calmness. And the decisions we make from a state of lower consciousness, which tends to come from panic, fear, lack or unworthiness.
Ultimately, whatever decision we take is always going to lead us to exactly where we’re meant to go. The issue is, we all want a shortcut through the hard lessons in life, not realising that life is quite literally one big lesson and it’s never normally a simple or easy one.
That being said, I do believe that when we take action from a place of deep self-awareness and self-compassion, we tend to make the choice that leads us somewhere better, much faster.
This is why I’m so passionate about the healing work I do on myself and for others. The more connected we are to the real driving forces within us, the more empowered we are to make the choices from that place of higher consciousness that exists within all of us.
And when we live in the knowledge that there’s no real right or wrong choice, just a different level of consciousness that comes with each choice, we can relax into trusting that it will always work out exactly as it’s meant to for our own growth and evolution.
No. 9 No one will ever understand me
For a long time, I had a tendency to look back at life with rose-tinted glasses.
But, while it’s normal to hold onto the life experiences that have shaped us, almost like a nostalgia that feels comforting and safe, living in the past is no way to live.
What I realised was that I was holding onto past trauma, pain and suffering of my life because I wanted someone to notice and give me the validation that I so desperately needed.
The human paradox is that we all want to be understood, and yet it is impossible for any one person to understand our unique human experience. No one will ever be able to walk in our shoes and know what it’s like to ‘be us’. And this caused me so much suffering. I wanted to be understood and validated by others, but in truth, I had to acknowledge and validate myself first.
This was a very painful experience for me to go through but it was also a breakthrough. I finally realised that no one was ever going to fully understand me or know everything I experienced, and so it was up to me, and only me, to validate, love and embrace myself.
Only then, could I step out of the past and into my present.
We hold onto pain because we want someone to notice, and to take care of us. Yet, no one can do that for us, we have to be the ones to do it for ourselves, and this is one of the hardest things to do.
No. 10 I am vast and unlimited
I thought I’d end on the most potent one of all. Out of everything I learned this year, this is one of the best things I’ve started to remember for myself.
We all come to earth to have a human experience and play the Game of Separation so we can come back to the truth of who we are and reconnect with God. It’s not an easy life we choose for ourselves down here, but it’s a pretty powerful one.
Over the past two years I’ve been learning Lightbody surgery - helping to gently awaken people who want to remember the truth of their unlimited nature.
And, as part of that process, I began to remember mine.
This is the amazing thing about life - we believe we are so small, powerless and insignificant, but we are all-powerful beings of light. We just feel all this lack and separation because that’s the way life has been designed for us down here.
It’s the toughest challenge to break through the glass ceiling of supposed limitation - we can’t even see it’s there to break through - but that’s the spiritual path of this lifetime for us on this path of initiation.
Limitation and lack has been programmed into us - we’re like a computer with a memory that’s filled up with junk - and we’re here in this lifetime to de-programme all the junk, bugs and redundant programming, so we can get back to the true, streamlined, potent and powerful nature of our lives.
I am vast and unlimited, and so are you.
Bring on 2026.
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